I can’t believe that today you turn four years old. Four years ago today we became parents for the first time. We went from having no children, to having two children. We considered ourselves blessed to get to experience what it was like having twins. Before you were born your Daddy’s common phrase was, “Can you believe we are having TWO babies!?!”
You have brought us endless amounts of joy. Our lives shifted in HUGE ways after you were born. You teach us on a daily basis what is important. Something about having twins threw us full force into family life. We could not pretend to be able to do the things we did before you in the same way. God made it clear that our life was to change. He had something better for us. We longed for you. We waited for you. We were happy to accommodate.
You have been best buddies and partners in everything from the very beginning. You slept better together as newborns, entertained yourselves happily together as babies, shared your precious animals crackers with each other when we expected you to keep them for yourself, put your brains together to scheme up crazy antics as young toddlers, and became full-fledged best friends as older toddlers. Now you are four, and will continue to define what it means to be brother, sister, and share the term and bond of “twins”.
When you were younger we would try to do “special” things with each of you separately from time to time. We were often surprised to find out that you really seemed to have less fun without your twin. Now that you are a bit older you seem to be able to appreciate it for short amounts of time.
We go through our day-to-day activities and aren’t fully aware how you being twins and close friends affects our life. When you are separated from each other or we go into a new situation we sometimes get glimpses.
As I was preparing to take you (Little Man) for a “Mommy date” you say to your sister, “I don’t know what to order at lunch! Can you tell me what to order?” I thought it was such a cute window into the security you have in each other that I often miss. You were feeling apprehensive about doing something you normally have no fear over. You knew you would be fine, but wanted your sister’s help.
When offered something special, you often want your twin to get the same things as well. If it is good, you know your sibling would want it too.
Being a twin is a special thing many don’t get to experience. I am so glad that you guys have fully embraced the bond. You love each other, value each other, take different roles, then switch roles seamlessly when a change is needed, and share most things like it is just the way it’s supposed to be.
You both are a little preoccupied about the future. You both want to know who you will marry. You both think it makes perfect sense to marry each other. You are partners now, and I love that you want to be partners later. Even though you will someday start lives on your own, I pray you will always be close and share this special bond.
What a twin Birthday means at our house.
- Two times to sing Happy Birthday. Everybody deserves their own little song.
- A special meal of choice. Usually you agree on the same thing. If not, we make sure everybody has something they enjoy.
- A choice of dessert. Often cakes. Something for each twin to “blow out.”
- Usually a party, sometimes a special day instead.
- A couple presents. This year a couple smaller ones and a big one to share. I feel sharing gifts only helps you learn and creates less fights for the future. Nobody can say “Hey that is MINE” when they know it is “ours”.
So far you have absolutely no issues sharing your birthday. I kinda think you prefer it this way. What could be more fun than sharing a special day with your best friend?
We love you precious our precious Littles! Happy Birthday!